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Ham rashq ko apne bhi gawaara nahin karte

Posted on: September 14, 2020

This article is written by Mahesh Mamadapur, a fellow enthusiast of Hindi movie music and a contributor to this blog.This article is meant to be posted in If this article appears in other sites without the knowledge and consent of the web administrator of, then it is piracy of the copyright content of and is a punishable offence under the existing laws.

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Non Film Songs of Mukesh – 02
These days, new-borns, barely a few hours old are made to wear full pants. It was not the case three and a half decades back at least in my case.

I got my full pant stitched only when I entered High School from primary grade. And, that too since it was mandatory for boys to start wearing full pants from VIII standard. Else, who knows, I would have had to wait for another 3 years for this luxury when I would step into college life. Jeans and readymade pants were an ultra-luxury which would have to wait for some more time.

What “aspect” of the body of a 12-year-old boy gets covered by wearing full pants is something which I have never been able to contemplate till today. Now at 46, I prepare wearing shorts even when going to the market. 🙂 How times change.

With full pants, the amount of pocket money received from parents also started improving. Especially, during and after matriculation, along with the coins, times arrived wherein I started possessing currency notes of 1, 2, 5 and on rare occasions even 10 and 20.

Family visits to restaurants did happen frequently. However, unlike the popular Punjabi la carte option these days, it was more of a combination of 2-3 snacks even for dinner. After matriculation, I developed the audacity of visiting restaurants on my own and ordering food items of my choice. This was basically after returning from college classes which were not so stringent as that of school. Then there was the option of bunking classes too.

Onion uttappa with a cup of tea or limca were my preferred choices. Sitting alone in restaurants and savouring these dishes is an experience I will never forget. At Belgaum, the place from which I hail, there were a few restaurants known for their special dishes. A hotel named “New Grand” established in 1948, had a popular and unique taste of upma which continues to be the talk of the city even today. Recently, the hotel has been demolished and moved away to a nearby location. But the ambience and the taste of food items no longer exits.

There is also a restaurant called “Ajantha” famous for its missal. It continues to be served to this day, but then again, the aroma and the taste of the bygone era is lost forever. Soft and fluffy idlis with unique taste of coconut chutney and sambar continue to be much preferred dish in this hotel to this day.

Quite adjacent to “New Grand” hotel was a theatre named Rex, which has also been now modified into a mini-mall/coffee shop etc. It was in this theatre that I saw my first and only “old Hindi movie” on a big screen.

The movie name was Neel Kamal released in 1968 which I saw in 1991/1992. I basically went to see it for the Rafi saab number Tujhko pukaare meraa pyaar. The storyline was quite annoying for me. Waheeda Rehman must have had a good walking exercise while the film was being made. 🙂

However, apart from the Rafi numbers, I came out of the theatre appreciating Asha Bhosale’s rendition of He rom rom mein basnewaale Ram. Listening and watching these songs which I had heard on radio/tape recorder on the big screen was quite a thrilling experience for me.

Born in 74, by the time I was 18, it was early nineties. Readers of the blog may well acknowledge that I write and present songs mainly from 40’s to 60’s. I sometimes venture into 70’s in case the need arises. So, basically, I discuss songs from an era before I was born. 🙂

Coming to watching old Hindi movies, I must admit that I score very badly on this front. I am yet to watch even classics such as Barsaat (49), Anmol Ghadi (1946), Deedar(1951), Andaz (1949) and a host of such movies. I did buy CD/DVD of many such movies but never cared to watch them.

Coming back to pocket money and my newfound freedom to spend on my own, I got myself involved into buying stamps, coins, books, novels, audio cassettes etc.

During one such venture in a cassettes shop, I came across a two-cassette pack of non-film ghazals of Mukesh. While I was quite familiar with filmi songs, it was on very odd occasions that I heard the NFS of Mukesh on Radio Ceylon. My joy knew no bounds when I caught sight of this pack. However, the joy seemed to be short lived. Let me explain.

The two-cassette pack was priced 55 and I must have hardly had 30 rupees. I was adamant on buying whatever 30 rupees could buy. The shop keeper explained that since it is a pack of two, individual cassettes cannot be sold. And for me to collect another 25 rupees would have taken months. I spent quite a while with him imploring and pleading to sell one of them. After much cajoling he did agree to sell Cassette No 01 priced 27.5 rupees.

The episode did not end with my purchase of one cassette. My next demand (off course free of cost) was the cover of the pack with a debonair looking Mukesh in excellent print staring straight into the eyes of the beholder. With special permission from the bosses, I am reproducing the picture of the cassette cover. I have always been awestruck with the gaze in the eyes of Mukesh in this picture.

The same snap of Mukesh was on the main cover. Now tell me, which Mukesh fan would walk away without possessing this poster.

Digressing, “poster” reminds me of my other craving and madness of collecting model Deepti Bhatnagar’s posters, calendars, advertisements or whatever my eyes would set upon featuring the beauty. This will require a separate and detailed article altogether and thankfully this series gives me ample scope and opportunity of indulging in such revelations. As the film trailers would shout “Coming soon at a theatre near you “, I have revealed the model’s name to keep the post awaited. 🙂

Coming back to the cassette story, the shopkeeper was in no position to yield stating that he himself is not sure if the other cassette would be sold as I had just bought only one. He even threatened to take back what he had just sold and return my money. Counting my blessings, I ran away with this single cassette. The date on which I had bought it was 30 January 1992. The cassette was released by HMV 4 years earlier in February 1988. I know these details since the cassette cover is still in my possession and I had this good habit of writing the date on which I bought such things.

At the shop, it did not cross my mind that I should have tried taking a photostat copy of the back of the pack or even noting the details of the songs that were printed. As for me, mobile phones in 1992 were only in the books of George Orwell, Arthur Clarke etc. 🙂

Well, after a couple of months, I did go back to the shop to purchase the second cassette. Yes, along with the pack cover ofcourse. 🙂

Unfortunately, the shop was selling some other commodities and the cassette guy had vanished. On enquiry, I was told that the earlier guy had closed shop for whatever reasons. I only prayed to God that the reason should not have been the sale of a single cassette for what should have been sold in a pack of two.

For many years, I always wondered what songs Cassette number 2 contained. Now with the advent of internet and the ease with which anything under the sun can be searched, I have got the full details of the cassettes. Interested readers may visit this site for the same.

Readers may be aware that I have posted two articles on the association of Mukesh with Khaiyyam saab in my other series. One article with the filmi songs of the combo and the other featured all the NFS.

Here is the post which covered the all NFS of Mukesh with Khaiyyam saab..
Coming to today’s NFS, I have chosen a Ghalib ghazal composed by Khaiyyam saab. Needless to mention, this ghazal is one of the ten songs in cassette number 01.

This ghazal was first released on records in 1963, as can be seen from the record label above.

Song-Ham rashq ko apne bhi gawaara nahin karte (Mukesh NFS)(1963) Singer-Mukesh, Lyrics-Ghalib, MD-Khayyam


ham rashq ko apne bhi gawaaraa nahin karte
ham rashq ko apne bhi gawaaraa nahin karte
marte hain vale un ki tamannaa nahin karte
marte hain vale un ki tamannaa nahin karte

dar pardaa unhen ghair se hai rabt-e-nihaani ee ee ee
dar pardaa unhen ghair se hai rabt-e-nihaani ee
zaahir kaa ye pardaa hai ki pardaa nahin karte
zaahir kaa ye pardaa hai ki pardaa nahin karte
marte hain vale un ki tamannaa nahin karte

ye baais-e-naumeedi-e-arbaab-e-hawas hai ae ae ae ae
ye baais-e-naumeedi-e-arbaab-e-hawas hai ae
Ghalib ko buraa kahte ho
Ghalib ko buraa kahte ho achchhaa nahin karte ae
Ghalib ko buraa kahte ho achchhaa nahin karte ae
Ghalib ko buraa kahte ho achchhaa nahin karte ae
ham rashq ko apne bhi gawaaraa nahin karte ae ae ae

6 Responses to "Ham rashq ko apne bhi gawaara nahin karte"

Mahesh Ji. Nice post sharing your growing years.Every reader may find some bit of it matching incidents in their life too. I started wearing full pants only after joining college ( that too after noticing that with shorts I would be singular,odd man out.) This was a beginning of my journey from a village to city (Bangalore).
Only landmark of Belgaum etched in my mind is Hotel Ramdev, a place of evening dinner or breakfast stop, while I journeyed by bus between Bombay and Mangalore.( mid point of the route.)
In one such breakfast stop, I dashed into the crew of film ‘Bombay to Goa’ staying at Ramdev. Spotted Amitabh in floral top and bell bottoms and Aruna Irani ( fully made up for days shoot.)
Song of the post is pleasing.


Shenoj ji,

Many Thanks for penning down your memories of my Beautiful Belgaum.
Incidentally, Hotel Ramdev complex was exactly the place from where I bought the cassette; the theme of this post. You might recollect a few shops in the Hotel Complex.

Belgaum is also the midpoint of Bangalore and Mumbai. The metros are exactly 500 KM on either side of Belgaum.

Thanks to the border issue and the “vested interests” of the luxury bus operators lobby, the city fares poorly for rail network. In fact a decade back, people of Belgaum never considered rail as an option to travel.

I wanted to write more on these aspects, but I already touched upon many subjects in the post and hence the omissions.

I have not done justice to the ghazal and its rendition by Mukesh.
My bad.



Thanks Mahesh ji for the post, I enjoyed reading it very much..


Prakash ji,

Thanks for spending time and reading the article.


Enjoyed reading your post and your take of the old times. I have spent all my childhood summer holidays in Belgaum. The enjoyment of watching movies in theatre with a group of family and cousins was the high point of those holidays. In the 80’s the big movies used to time their release also with the school vacations, I feel.

With the wonderful climate, the summer was not the real ‘garmi’ wala season, for us visiting from Mumbai. With the rainy season starting in May end, the climate would become very cold. I have seen big ‘hailstones” in Belgaum in those rains of May.

I dont remember which movie I have seen at ‘Rex’ theatre on college road. But I think that theatre area and also the area around Ramdev hotel is shown in the film ‘Bombay to Goa”.



Nahm ji,

Many thanks for your comment.
Yes, heavenly climate throughout the year was a USP of Belgaum two decades back.
Let me make efforts to watch Bombay to Goa.



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