Teree meree shaadee seedhhee saadee pandit na shehnaayee re
Posted on: August 5, 2024
This article is written by Avinash Scrapwala a fellow enthusiast of Hindi movie music and a contributor to this blog. This article is meant to be posted in atulsongaday.me. If this article appears in other sites without the knowledge and consent of the web administrator of atulsongaday.me, then it is piracy of the copyright content of atulsongaday.me and is a punishable offence under the existing laws.
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#the Decade of Seventies – 1971 – 1980 #
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# Bhoole-Bisre Geet # (Teri meri shaadi seedhi saadi …)
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The place where we stay in Vadodara is near a ‘party plot’ where celebrations, mainly marriage functions take place quite often. Naturally marriage processions too accompany these marriage functions in the road adjacent to the housing society. The sound of the music and singing by the band party create a huge din. The sound of the DJ is so much that it causes vibrations in our third floor flat. There is also one ‘regular’ band party that has a male singer who also sings in a ‘female voice’. Normally they play old songs from the years of 1970s -1980s. This band party is almost a fixture for marriage functions that take place in this locality.
All these proceedings often reminds me of the marriage ceremonies taking place in our small colony when I was growing up as a child, and how things have changed over forty to fifty years. We were staying in a small colony in my childhood. Whenever there was a marriage function all the people staying in the colony were default invitees irrespective of caste-creed & religion. It was also normal those days that people would voluntarily contribute in work to help the members of the family whose son or daughter was getting married. I remember once when there was a ‘marriage function’ in our immediate neighborhood and the main hall of our house (it was a small one BHK house but having spacious courtyard and backyard too) was utilized for keeping sweets being prepared for the function. The neighbors’ family spent a lot of money for the marriage of their two daughters. Those were the days when songs from the movie ‘Geet Gaata Chal’ were heard on loudspeakers. (That is how the song‘mangal bhawan amangal haari ee’ got implanted in my mind). I do not recall if anybody those days complained about the sound/music during wedding functions those days. Life was simple and people had all the time time at their disposal to attend functions and voluntarily take responsibilities for any task to be done in the functions.
Those days marriagse had not been exploited as a business opportunity now known as wedding industry that it had become now. During the last forty/forty-five years after the 70s-80s things have changed a lot. Weddings now a days are organised by experts of wedding industry now.Nowadays ‘wedding festival is a round the year affair. In the past marriages used to happen in winter or in summer season only, if I am correct. The ‘wedding industry’ nowadays has a turnover of over Rs 5000 crores now. A few months back a ‘news channel’ had covered this topic on TV.
I remember, somebody getting married by doing a ‘court marriage’ or ‘registered marriage’ was not accepted in the society. Such practices were looked down upon. But now people who work abroad and wish to settle there after marriage do register their marriage first in the ‘registrar’s office’, apply for the passport/migration, and later on get married through the usual ‘wedding function’ route as dictated by the ‘society norms. So the ‘registered marriages’ has become convenient as well as acceptablenow. Love marriages, inter-caste, inter-faith & inter-religion marriages have also become quite normal or acceptable now which were ‘taboo’ in those years.
I was curious to know when the ‘registration of marriages’ was started in our country. When I searched for this information I came across the following text on one source. This also talks of ‘marriages in our culture’ in brief. So I feel it appropriate to share it here.
In Indian culture, marriage is regarded as a sacred ceremony. It is a sacred arrangement between two individuals to spend the rest of their lives together. There is no such thing as a small wedding in India. People start planning their children’s weddings as soon as they are born. People go to great lengths to ensure that their families’ weddings are celebrated to the utmost extent possible.
A marriage certificate is a legal document that certifies the union of two people. Hindu marriages in India are governed by the Hindu Marriage Act of 1955 or the Special Marriage Act of 1954, respectively. The Honourable Supreme Court of India, in the year 2006, deemed it mandatory to register a marriage in order to legalise it through the case of Seema v. Ashwani Kumar. With the development of technology, one can also register his or her marriage online from the comfort of their home. This article gives details of the procedure that one needs to follow when registering their marriage through different means and under different legislations.
I guess that the change of name of the girl after marriage was also compulsory earlier which is not compulsory now? (Knowledgeable people can throw more light on this).
I have not gone into further details of the above information. But just one thing came to my mind that had people strictly followed the ‘registration of marriages’ since the decade of ‘fifties’ it would have reduced the suffering of the many ‘characters’ at least in our older Hindi movies, where the hero and heroine of the movie would get married in a temple and in an unfortunate situation if the hero dies the ‘widow’ suffered a lot in ‘society’ which would aggravate further if she has been pregnant (e.g. the movie ‘Aradhana’ and many more 🙂 ).
I got married in the year ‘1994’ and we have ‘color photos’ of the function which was a ‘luxury’ in those days. I am not aware if ‘video shooting’ was available in the near-by cities then. Anyway ‘color photos’ was a matter of pride and that too having many photos or albums was a great thing to afford. My parents, uncles and grandparents had only one black and white photo, which was taken after marriage function. I guess it was quite normal then that people would take the ‘couple’ photo in a studio where the male would wear a ‘suit & tie’ and the female a ‘traditional saaree’.
Nowadays we have a ‘pre-wedding shoot’ which can be held in the ‘mid-air’, under the ‘water’, on a ‘mountain top’, in a ‘gas balloon’ etc etc. There might be other ‘adventurous’ way people might preferring which I may not be aware of. Then there are various rituals which are held with much fanfare requiring huge expenditure. A common man tries to get the rituals done by getting them spread over only a couple of days viz. ‘engagement’ or ‘ring-ceremony’, ‘mehndi’, ‘haldi’, ‘sangeet’, ‘wedding’ (or ‘marriage’). In our customs the ‘engagement’ or ‘ring ceremony’ is done well before i.e. before a year or six months of the marriage function. But now due to people working far from their homes does not get time to attend such functions as their professional commitments prevent them from taking long leaves. So many people try to held the various functions just before the ‘marriage day’ or on the ‘marriage day’ itself. The main purpose is to fulfill all customs and traditional requirements as early as possible in ‘few days’. Otherwise it would require more days and ‘spread over’ time if these functions are held in individual. That would also ‘increase’ the expenditure ultimately.
But some people can still afford to get these various rituals done at different venues, even at faraway places abroad or different locations inside the country as well. Recently there have been a ‘wedding celebrations’ going over for months and the media carried some news regularly. Every time I thought that the ‘marriage function’ has been done, it turned out that some ‘pre-pre-of that ritual’ has been done. Some people even coined new terms like ‘pre-Rihanna’, ‘pre-Bibber’ etc. and such messages were in circulation on social media
Well coming back to our main ‘function’ or ‘topic’ now. Among the main activities is also the booking of the video photographer and the ‘beauticians’ for the bride (groom?). It also needs to be done months before, as the one in your budget or the one you would prefer would not be available due to ‘over bookings’ or already booked by prospective customers well in advance.
Booking the venue for the marriage also needs a ‘research’ and ‘strategy’ so everything goes well. Booking of staying arrangements for the guests depending on the number of guests needs to be done well in advance.
The ‘menu’ for the food to be served for breakfast, lunch, dinner is to be decided well and also the various snacks to be served in between, is well planned in advance. This brings into the role of the ‘catering agency’, ‘outsource foods’ etc. And then comes the ‘music’ arrangements, or ‘band party’, or even a ‘orchestra’ or a ‘musical group’ who simultaneously keep performing on ‘stage’ by side as the different rituals keep going on the other side of the venue. ‘Decorations’ is another factor which needs considerable budget.
The ‘baaraat’ procession gives people many opportunities to use the ‘road’ according to their ‘will and fancies’ and some ‘over enthusiastic’ people easily turn this occasion into ‘nuisance & hazard’ for others by playing loud music and bursting crackers on road and resulting in ‘traffic jam’. Once when I and my wife hired a cab to attend the wedding in the city, there was a ‘baaraat’ passing on the road. Our cab-driver was very annoyed over it and he expressed his strong opposition to this practice of ‘unnecessary show on the road’ – very much.
All the above arrangements can alter significantly and bring new dimensions to one’s budget (or expenditure) if the ‘wedding’ is to be a ‘destination wedding’. Or one can have wedding in a ‘cruise’, in an ‘airplane’, on top of ‘burj-khalifa’, in a ‘submarine’ or a ‘watercraft’ etc etc. One should have noticed that nowadays people have less time and nobody wants to attend the rituals but instead they would take food, meet the newly married couple and leave because life has become a ‘superfast track’ where everybody is in hurry. In older days (or in my child hood days) the food would not be served until all the rituals were over. People would take the food sitting on the ‘mat’ laid on the ground. Now one can come and can take food first, meet the newlywed couple and leave at his own convenience.
The corona pandemic in ‘2020’ brought a lot of restrictions to these ‘celebrations’ (or ‘nuisance’? of some people). Some people opined then that this might be a lesson for the future, but people accepted the hazards of the ‘pandemic’ as a ‘routine’ and decided to keep moving forward with ‘ostentatious’ wedding functions after the ‘pandemic restrictions’ were relaxed to some extent. When all the restrictions were lifted people hit back as if they were taking ‘revenge’ of the ‘pandemic’ and as soon as its intensity got decreased people became free to carry the ‘nuisance’ on the ‘roads’ as well as at ‘community places’ during such functions.
Some people (like one of my friends) took this opportunity of the ‘pandemic restrictions’. Those who had more than one of their children eligible for marriage grab this ‘opportunity’ to get married both of them (like a son as well as daughter) to avoid inviting many people (or relatives? 🙂 ) and spending a lot on expenses for marriage. On the other hand there were people like me whose relatives were staying at distant places, waiting for the restrictions to be relaxed so that most of our relatives can visit us and attend the marriage of my daughter then. At that time we had not visited our home state since four-five years so we were eagerly waiting for meeting our relatives.
Now we come to the ‘small story of marriage functions’ vis-à-vis the big story I mentioned above. In recent times people are coming with innovative ideas to avoid wastage of ‘money’ on ‘weddings’. Some ‘decent souls’ who are sensible to their social responsibilities and conscious of ‘avoiding ostentatious spending’ are finding new ways to ‘avoid wastage of other resources as well’. So many people have come up with ‘eco-friendly invitation cards’. Some people send one ‘sapling for plantation’ with the invitations for marriage. Some communities have decided not to order ‘outsourced food’ and also avoid any ‘catering agency’. The surplus food from marriage functions is being collected by ‘voluntary organizations’ and being distributed to the poor who are deprived of even a onetime meal. Given recent incidences of people getting ‘heart-attacks’ (at some places even the groom had lost their life) due to heavy ‘noise’ of DJs, some people have totally banned the use of DJs in marriages now. Many communities time to time arrange for ‘community weddings’ where the celebrations are enjoyed in ‘simple’ and ‘sober’ manner. Some people are arranging activities like ‘blood donation camp’ during marriages of their sons or daughters. Recently there have been instance of a ‘groom’ losing his life as he fall down under the horse whose stunt of climbing a stage got wrong. So the many adventures and ‘show-off’ activities also have many hazards associated with them.
Now we come to a ‘sub-plot’ to our main topic. Recently there have been instances of the ‘eloping’ of the bride’s father with the ‘groom’s mother’ and vice-versa during the marriage of their son or daughter. So this is another precautions that one should take. In addition to check out the credentials of the groom and the bride, they should checkout the character of the parents of the prospective ‘bride & groom’ too. 🙂
Finally, here is hoping that may the changing times bring more sensibility to these ‘celebrations’. Though we cannot prevent people who have their capacity to spend, we can at least hope that they become more aware and sensitive about the problems of the ‘general public’ while they use public places and their surroundings for such ‘extravagant celebrations’. We also hope that they become more considerate about not harming the environment while celebrating their functions.
Today’s song is about the ‘seedhi-saadi shaadi’ which people would like to go back to. We do not know if it is going to happen in coming times. Though the alternatives suggested in this song are too ‘idealistic’ to follow, these can still be guidelines on a ‘macro level’ to have a ‘simple or modest wedding celebrations’.
Alternatively, we could well witness more ostentatious, adventurous and expensive marriages taking place in future. That also reminds me the following lines from a song in the movie ‘Sabse Badaa Rupaiyyaa’
Ek leader ko dekho
he is looking so very grand
udaata firta dinner hai
in the hotel sun n sand
uske ladke ki shaadi
dekhe jaa
ye na poochh
kahaan se aaya ye haathi
from where this english band …
Today’s song is from another ‘1977’ movie. It is from the movie ‘Dildaar’. One song from this movie has been posted on the blog earlier. I had watched this movie in my childhood days in ‘1977’. While presenting the first song from this movie on the blog, I have mentioned about my ‘nostalgia’ of this movie and its songs in the post on the blog.
The song under discussion is sung by Kishore Kumar and Asha Bhonsle. It is picturised on Jeetendra and Rekha.
I like this song very much. This song was a popular song of its time. it stood at ‘paaydaan’ number seventeen in the ‘annual Binaca Geetmala’ of the year ‘1977’.
Enjoy the song now …
Video
Audio
Song-Teree meree shaadee seedhhee saadee pandit na shehnaayee re(Dildaar)(1977) Singers- Kishore Kumar, Asha Bhonsle, Lyrics-Anand Bakshi, MD-Laxmikant Pyarelal
Both
Lyrics
Arey
Tum udaas kyun ho gaye
gaaon mein hotey
hanste rotey
maa khush hoti
phool pirotee
sehraa bantaa
bajaa bajtaa
melaa lagtaa aa
ghar aangan mein
man ki baatein aen aen
rah gayin man mein
to kya huaa
teri meri shaadi
seedhi saadee
pandit naa
shehnaayee re ae
in sab ka kya kaam wahaan
jahaan shyam ne bansi
bajaayee re ae
teri meri shaadi
seedhi saadee
pandit naa
shehnaayee re ae
in sab ka kya kaam wahaan
jahaan shyam ne bansi
bajaayee re ae
teri meri shaadi
seedhi saadee
pandit naa
shehnaayee re ae
in sab ka kya kaam wahaan
jahaan shyam ne bansi
bajaayee re ae
do nainon ki paalkee ee
mere pyaare dulhaa ki
ho mere raaja dulhaa ki ee
do nainon ki paalkee ee
mere pyaare dulhaa ki
o mere man ki ye dolee ee
meri sundar dulhan ki
bin baaraatee
ghodaa haathhee
bin baaraatee
ghodaa haathhee
ye baaraat sajaayi re ae
in sab ka kya kaam wahaan
jahaan shyam ne bansi
bajaayee re ae
teri meri shaadi
seedhi saadee
pandit naa
shehnaayee re ae
in sab ka kya kaam wahaan
jahaan shyam ne bansi
bajaayee re ae
main anpadhh
tu likhee padhhee ee
kaise apni aankh ladi ee
main anpadhh
tu likhee padhhee
kaise apni aankh ladi ee
tu shaharee
main dehaatee ee
kaise bane jeewan saathi
reet ye todee
preet ne jodee ee
reet ye todee
preet ne jodee
apni khoob banaayi re ae
in sab ka kya kaam wahaan
jahaan shyam ne bansi
bajaayee re ae
teri meri shaadi
seedhi saadee
pandit naa
shehnaayee re ae
in sab ka kya kaam wahaan
jahaan shyam ne bansi
bajaayee re ae
aaj milan ki rainaa
tumse kya kuchh kehnaa hai ae
aaj milan ki rainaa
tumse kya kuchh kehnaa hai
kal karnaa baaki baatein
roz kahaan aisi raatein
yoon mat dekho
aanchal chhodo
yoon mat dekho
aanchal chhodo
doon main
raam duhaayi re ae
in sab ka kya kaam wahaan
jahaan shyam ne bansi
bajaayee re ae
teri meri shaadi
seedhi saadee
pandit naa
shehnaayee re ae
in sab ka kya kaam wahaan
jahaan shyam ne bansi
bajaayee re ae
2 Responses to "Teree meree shaadee seedhhee saadee pandit na shehnaayee re"
August 5, 2024 at 1:16 pm
Thank you Avinashji for bringing this song on to the blog. I used to love it back then.
I will just like to add my two-bit as regards the custom of “name-change”. There is no such system in communities of Kerala & Tamil Nadu.
I remember neither my mother-in-law nor her co-sisters changed even their surnames. My mother-in-law had her maiden name till she died. Similarly, none of my co-sisters changed their name.
In my case, we signed the marriage registration form were at the venue, with both parents as witness & the officiating priest endorsing. Of course, the system was yet to become mandatory. My father, in his customary style decided that my surname will be substituted by my husband’s name (my husband’s family never used a surname).
I am sure Shenoyji, and other atulites from the other south states will be able to give an insight into the systems they follow
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August 5, 2024 at 11:05 am
Avinash ji
Thanks for the post
Marriages ‘yesterday-today’, was a light hearted narration on changing/changed times for marriages.
I have gone thru these phases in society, eyes wide open !! :))
I have not known today’s movie or the song 😦
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